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Posted on September 25, 2018 at 11:41 AM Comments comments (0)
A shark in a fish tank will grow 8", but in the ocean it will grow 8' or more. The shark will never out grow its environment, and neither will you. Many times we're around small thinking people, so we don't grow. Change your environment and watch your growth.


Posted on September 9, 2018 at 5:19 PM Comments comments (0)
If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.

Opioid Epidemic

Posted on August 28, 2018 at 2:06 PM Comments comments (0)
It is sad to see so many young people passing away due to the opioid crisis. It shows how hard it is to give opioids up for good. Many addicts are clean for awhile, then go back out. Please, if you have relapsed, don't be ashamed. Get help! Go to 12 step meetings, go to detox, reconnect with those who helped you get sober to begin with. Your families and friends need you. You need to be around to help others. Don't give up and give in. You can do it!

The Financial Realities of Living with an Addict

Posted on August 14, 2018 at 11:54 AM Comments comments (3)
NEW YORK (Reuters) - For David Sheff, there is nothing worse than the sheer terror of witnessing your own child slip away into a life of drug abuse.
The San Francisco writer felt helpless as his son Nic became addicted to substances like methamphetamine and heroin over the course of a decade, beginning in 1997 when Nic was around 15.
Nic eventually triumphed, and has now been clean for more than five years, to his parents’ great joy and relief. But his lengthy struggles with addiction had another long-term victim: Their family budget.
“Credit cards would disappear, checks would disappear, stuff would go missing,” remembers Sheff, who wrote the 2008 book “Beautiful Boy” about his family’s experiences. “Eventually he even broke into his little brother’s piggy bank; that’s how bad it got,” he said in an interview.
“Then he would disappear, and we would be terrified for him, and just send more money,” he says. “I did that until someone told me that sending money to a drug addict is like giving a loaded gun to someone who is suicidal.”
But even when his son began to turn a corner, it wasn’t the end of the family’s financial challenges. Next came the rehabilitation programs, which can cost $25,000 or more every month, and be required multiple times when relapses occur.
Sheff’s son went through six such programs, and Sheff’s insurance ran out early, leaving him with towering bills. He spent $60,000 on his son’s care, $28,000 of that in installments that he only recently finished paying.
Having an addict in the family presents a deeply troubling dilemma for spouses and parents. How do you help those you love, while protecting your own financial future?
After all, a serious substance abuser is likely to do whatever it takes to feed an addiction. That might include tapping a partner’s savings account, home equity, 401(k) or individual retirement accounts, or even the college savings - and piggy banks - of their kids.
Even if the addict isn’t sneaking money, relatives might spend every penny they have willingly to help fund a successful recovery.
“I’ve heard of relatives literally selling everything, mortgaging everything,” says Sheff. “Then you’re not only dealing with the terror of losing a child, but with being broke as well, with no idea of what’s going to happen in the future.
“And since relapses are part of the deal, what if you sell everything to help, and then you’re faced with the same crisis all over again? Then you have no options left.”
It’s an alarmingly common problem. According to the 2012 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, almost 22.2 million Americans had abused or been dependent on drugs or alcohol within the previous year.
So what is a loving spouse, parent or child to do in such a situation? Here are some pointers.
Check your financial accounts carefully to get a handle on exactly what is going on. “Addicts are very skilled at hiding transactions and siphoning cash away,” says Brent Neiser, the Denver-based senior director with the National Endowment for Financial Education. “That’s why you need to be hyper aware of your personal finances.”
Some red flags that an addict is at work, according to Neiser: Savings accounts being depleted more rapidly than usual, regular payments going to organizations you’re unfamiliar with and home equity lines of credit being tapped.
Keep an eye out for cash advances, evidence of payday lending, credit card or bank statements being rerouted to different addresses, and changes to credit reports, he says.
If you suspect something is up, couples should establish separate financial accounts in each spouse’s name. That doesn’t mean spouses necessarily have to give up anything - the usual state rules would apply to splitting up marital property in the event of a divorce, for example, said Matt McClintock, vice president of education for WealthCounsel, a membership organization for estate planners.
But it would act as a barrier to any short-term raiding by the addict, who might have more trouble getting to money in an account that didn’t have his or her name on it.
In some situations, it might be worth setting up a trust. You could arrange for large assets like a home or planned inheritance to be housed in the trust and have it administrated by a spouse or a third party such as an attorney. That would help prevent a user from tapping those sources to fuel addictions.
“It can be sensible to have a third party as a co-trustee, since spouses can sometimes be bullied, or throw up their hands in frustration,” says Bill Conway, a tax attorney specializing in wealth preservation with Conway & Pannell in McLean, Virginia.
A trust could also help if a parent is planning an estate with concerns for a drug-addicted child. “A trust could buy a home for the person to live in, or always provide money for food, while making sure those funds aren’t being converted to pay for drugs,” he says.
The key question: Do you use up your own financial resources to keep a roof over your child’s or partner’s head? Or do you practice tough love and cut them off, which would restrict their cash but could precipitate a crisis?
These are questions with no easy answers, and should be handled case-by-case, likely with the help of addiction specialists.
Sheff recommends targeted assistance aimed at keeping the person off the streets.
“You want to do everything you can to help them get well,” says Sheff. “ But you don’t want to lose your house or spend every penny you have, because that’s not going to do anybody any good.”


Posted on August 12, 2018 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (1)
I'm really enjoying this IOP class I'm in. (That's a miracle) It's proving to be profoundly informative. We talked about shame tonight. I didn't realize how much shame I had, in believing that I wasn't worth the love and acceptance I've been searching for my whole life due to my abandonment issues. But talking about it and putting it in the air like this ensures that my feelings of shame won't survive. If u can name it and talk about it, shame can't survive.
An addict needs shame like a man dying of thirst needs salt water. -
    Terrence Real 


Posted on August 4, 2018 at 5:34 PM Comments comments (6)
Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.

Demi Lovato and Pals 'Were on a Binger' Night Before Overdose and Had Narcan on Hand: Source

Posted on July 26, 2018 at 6:10 PM Comments comments (2)
Prior to her apparent drug overdose on Tuesday, Demi Lovato‘s friends had a strong suspicion an incident like this would occur.
“She and her ‘friends’ were on a binger the entire night,” an insider tells PEOPLE of the house party that continued after the group left Saddle Ranch. “They keep Narcan on hand for such situations – they were prepared for this. The people she has been hanging around lately aren’t her real friends – they don’t have her best interests at heart. She’s pushed her true friends away.”
The source adds, “She had to find creative and sneaky ways to get drugs because her team and those that really care about her really try to keep a close watch on her.”
The “Sorry Not Sorry” singer was rushed to the hospital Tuesday morning following the incident at her Hollywood Hills home, hours later appearing “alert and stable,” a close source confirmed to PEOPLE.
According to the emergency call audio obtained by TMZ, Lovato had been unconscious prior to the arrival of EMTs and revived by her friends with Narcan, an emergency medicine used to reverse the effects of a narcotic overdose. Though reports have indicated the overdose was heroin-related, a source close to Lovato claimed to PEOPLE that it was not.
And while the insider says Lovato is “capable” of pulling through this, sources close to the star told PEOPLE they had been fearing an incident like this for an extended period of time.
“Things have been a total mess for months. She and her team severed ties, and they played a large part in getting her sober years ago. She hasn’t been in a good place,” a close source claimed.
Last month Lovato released her new hit song, “Sober,” revealing her recent relapse following six years of sobriety. She performed “Sober” in Paso Robles, California, just two days prior to the apparent overdose.
Since her apparent overdose, Lovato has received a massive amount of support and well-wishes from fans and close friends, including ex Wilmer Valderrama.
“He knew she was going through a tough time but he wasn’t prepared for this,” the source told PEOPLE. “He saw her through so many ups and downs and was her rock through some of her darkest moments. To see her back in such a sad and vulnerable place is heartbreaking for him.”
The source added Valderrama has “always cared deeply for her and they truly remained friends after they broke up.”
And though Lovato has been vocal about her struggles throughout the years, another insider revealed that Lovato’s period of sobriety was full of ups and downs.
“Demi was never really clean and sober from all of her demons. She has been fighting depression and anxiety for quite some time — and is still in such a dark place. She was sober for a while, but not completely sober for six years.”

The Gift of Desperation

Posted on July 18, 2018 at 12:37 PM Comments comments (1)
"Our disease always resurfaced or continued to progress until, in desperation, we sought help from each other in Narcotics... Anonymous."
  - Basic Text, p. 13
When we think of being desperate, we envision an undesirable state: a poor, bedraggled soul frantically clawing at something sorely needed, a desperate look in the eyes. We think of hunted animals, hungry children, and of ourselves before we found NA.
Yet it was the desperation we felt before coming to NA that compelled us to accept the First Step. We were fresh out of ideas, and so became open to new ones. Our insanity had finally risen higher than our wall of denial, forcing us to get honest about our disease. Our best efforts at control had only worn us out; hence, we became willing to surrender. We had received the gift of desperation and, as a result, were able to accept the spiritual principles that make it possible for us to recover.
Desperation is what finally drives many of us to ask for help. Once we've reached this state, we can turn around and start anew. Just as the desperate, hunted animal seeks a safe haven, so do we: in Narcotics Anonymous.
Just for Today: The gift of desperation has helped me become honest, open-minded, and willing. I am grateful for this gift because it has made my recovery possible.
  - Corresponding page Sixth Edition
  - Basic Text, p., 13
Most of us realized that in our addiction we were slowly committing suicide, but addiction is such a cunning enemy of life that we had lost the power to do anything about it. Many of us ended up in jail, or sought help through medicine, religion and psychiatry. None of these methods was sufficient for us. Our disease always resurfaced or continued to progress until in desperation, we sought help from each other in Narcotics Anonymous.
After coming to NA we realized we were sick people. We suffered from a disease from which there is no known cure. It can, however, be arrested at some point, and recovery is then possible.

'Storm Chasers' star Joel Taylor died of ecstasy overdose

Posted on July 12, 2018 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (9)
The cause of death for Discovery Channel's "Storm Chasers" star Joel Taylor has been revealed. 
On Friday, TMZ reported that the reality star died from an ecstasy overdose, citing toxicology results obtained by the outlet. 
The Bureau of Forensic Sciences of Puerto Rico confirmed that the 38-year-old died of MDMA poisoning and added he had traces of ketamine in his system.
Taylor's sudden death occured in January while the star was aboard the Royal Caribbean's Harmony of the Seas cruise.
Taylor reportedly was found dead in his cabin and a cruise official told TMZ law enforcement officials were notified of the star's death when they docked in San Juan, Puerto Rico. 
"It appears the death could be an overdose and Joel Taylor was consuming controlled substances," a law enforcement official said at the time. 
On the night of Taylor's death, "Grease" star Olivia Newton-John and Swedish DJ duo Galantis performed on the ship. 
RIP my best friend and storm chasing partner, Joel Taylor. I am shocked and absolutely devastated by the loss of my incredible, caring friend. We chased so many intense storms, and I wish we could have just one more storm chase. I'll miss you forever, Joel. We lost a legend
— Reed Timmer (@ReedTimmerAccu) January 24, 2018
Guests on the cruise told TMZ a few people were arrested for drug possession at the port in Fort Lauderdale, Fla., before the boat departed. 
Taylor studied meteorology at the University of Oklahoma before becoming a driver with his friend and “Storm Chasers” co-star Reed Timmer and chasing storms in Oklahoma's Tornado Alley. Taylor starred on “Storm Chasers” from 2008 until it was canceled in 2012.
Fox News' Kathleen Joyce contributed to this report. 

Addiction and Recovery

Posted on July 4, 2018 at 1:03 PM Comments comments (3)
Very, very, grateful to be here today and get to share a little bit of my story with u. Its come to my realization that my selfish pride is what's been keeping me from sharing it with u, coupled along with some shame and embarrassment. In February i relapsed and after about 6 wks my body had started to shut down. My liver, tormented from drugs and alcohol over the yrs, along with Hep C couldnt process anymore poison. On 3.21.18 i ODed and was taken to the hospital unable to b...reathe on my own...without a pulse. They called my mom in from Phoenix, told her to hurry, they didnt know if i was gonna live. After 4 days on life support i came out of it. Unable to walk or feed myself, i knew i had really fucked up this time. After a month i was released still unable to function without meds and even then im still learning and fighting to do basic normal everyday functions. I lost oxygen to my brain and now i have the fight of my life staring me square in the face in the form of rerouting the signals from my brain to my limbs and core. I know why im here today and it's to help. Im here to help other addicts and i hope my story will give anyone having any doubts some hope. Im not giving up! I have a purpose and i aim to see it through! The spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self discipline.-Timothy Ch.1 v7